I would give anything in the world....
 

to stop the pain my daughter is going through.We were very hopeful that this last surgery on her back would be it,but I guess not.Lindsays pain is worse than ever,and it is really tearing me apart seeing her in tears every time I see her.It is so bad,she wants to quit grad school,and she can't keep the job she loves.She had to give up her dream of showing dogs,which she was one of the top junior handlers in the country.Maureen and I just don't know what to do any more ,the doctors say give it another 6 months for all to heal,but we call bs.Now you guys know why I haven't been around lately......

Sorry to hear about your daughters back. We will keep her in our prayers that the pain will go away and for strength for you and Maureen. No parents wants to see their children hurting, and if you are like me I would trade places with mine if it would keep them from getting hurt. Thanks for sharing.

Im sorry she is going through this pain but glad she has you and Maureen to help her through it.Prayers to you all ,I had hoped you were in for a break after the rough spell youve had these past couple of years .We will continue to pray she gets better .


PS : I knew why you were gone but missed you still .
John

Tell her I definitely understand her pain. I had my spine crushed in the Army and every year it gets a little worse. This year I started using a wheel chair. I didn't want to, but it turns out the pain is a LOT better when I can wheel around. My bad days are bad, and my good days aren't very good.

Allow all the swelling and trauma from the surgery to go down and heal. She may just feel good enough to walk. Strenuous activity will be out of the question, even when she feels good. How about being hotrod builder that can't walk half the time? I started my own shop again because I can't work for anyone else with any regularity. Dreams will still be attainable, she'll just have to make some adjustments to get them.

Tell her to keep her head up. Better times are coming. I promise.

Alan,first off thanks for your service and second thanks for the encouraging post.

Gary,
I am so sorry to here about your daughter's pain.
I sure hope she starts feeling better soon.

When it comes to the pain you and Maureen are feeling I understand completely.
There is not a worse feeling in the world than to see your child in pain.
I'm not just saying this to try and make you feel better,
I really do understand. Kendall, our oldest daughter has cystic fibrosis. When she gets sick, and ends up in the hospital I would give anything to trade places with her.

I sure pray for your daughter to feel better, and look forward to reading a post from you some day soon that says all is well.

o man i am sorry to hear about this man! i hope she gets better soon man!

I thought the last surgery would take care of things, sorry it hasn't worked out, yet. There is always hope Gary and I hope for the best for her. It's harder to watch your kids suffer than to go through the pain yourself. I've known enough people with back problems and it is the worst. We'll keep her in our thoughts and prayers. Hang in there, there is always more that can be done.

Well said
I'm sure better days are ahead of her. Don't lose hope, we will keep you in our prayers and keep us posted no matter what. We are here for you to support you. Feel free to vent any time.

Thanks,Rich I appreciate it. How old is your daughter?

After being married for 33 years,we have had a few bumps in the road like everyone else,but dealing with this has been the worst.

Kendall is 23 years old. She was diagnosed when she was only hours old.
The doctors told us she probably would not live past her teens. Well the fight in her and the support of the rest of our family has prooved all of them to be wrong. It has been a very expensive and emotional 23 years, but in a weird way I think it made all of us stronger. Three years ago she got married and also made us grandparents. She now works for me at our shop. We decided that would work out good for her because she has been let go from other jobs in the past for missing time due to illness.

Again your daughter, yourself, and your wife are in our prayers.

My sister sons has cystic fibrosis too, and the doctors said he also would not live past his teens. He is now 33 so I hope this gives you some hope. Like you said a support system in our family has got him through and advances in the disease has helped. MS also runs in our family so it looks like we are all dealing with some of the same issues. A support team is what gets us through the rough days.

33 is good to here. i'm glad he's doing well..
i'm sure Gary has a good support system in his family..
Also a good one here on this forum..

When I originally learned about the problems with Lindsay it was because of a conversation you and I had about David and his problems with his neck and back. In the time since then both David and Lindsay have had surgery. I have only had to go through this with David for the past 3 years and I know the pain and stress that it has put on everyone.

But I also know, as does everyone else here that reads your posts about your family, that you have a close loving family. It also sounds like the communication is great as well, especially when it comes to Lindsay's health.

It is not easy but don't let the negativity work itself into your thoughts. Positive thoughts only. It has been a year for David and it is only 70% healed and I am not giving up that it will get better. Lindsay will improve, I just know she will. I will always keep positive thoughts for her, as will everyone else here. And you will always have a place here to tell us how you feel, the good the bad and the ugly...vent away. You are a part of our family and we will always be here for you.

Gary ,I wish I could help but all I can offer if encouragement to stay positive and prayers that she and everyone with health problems get well or at least some relief. Feel free to call on me if you need .

Thanks guys.Nice to know I got friends here.The people I spend hours and hours with at work could really care less.

Gary, maybe the guys at work have their own set of problems which gives the appearance of "blowing off" your situation, a situation which just might seem to be a normal occurence in some of their lives. Just sumthing to think about.

The people I work with represent everything I hate about the car business.Believe me,I know what I,m talking about.

We will always listen here.

Youve got more friends than you know what to do with ,just try inviting all of us to your house at the same time and see what you get .I couldnt be there but a bunch would .

Gary, if everybody had strong and caring parents like you, the world would be a lot better off. You might not be able to heal her pain, but your support will help her get through it.

Any updates Gary ,how are you doing as well ?

Lindsay had an appointment with her surgeon this mornings,and the news was not promising.She has a ct scan scheduled 12-1 and we will go from there.Her pain is getting worse every day.Really starting to wear on us.

Gary ,she and you and Maureen are in our prayers .Keep us posted as we all worry about YA'LL .

flash said what we all are thinking. We miss seeing you here more, but we understand. The most important thing right now is your family, so take care of them. Just let us know how things are going when you have time.