[Ms Grumpy]

My oldest son is 23 and lives in Texas. He texted me today that he didn't make enough money last month to pay his rent. Now he has been struggling for a while, and has never really asked for anything. But, he is a subcontractor and his boss says that he is not paying him, because the customers are not paying their bills.

So what do I do. We know that he has been struggling for a while. And he told me today that if he moves back home, then people will know that he failed. I told him that he is not a failure, he has a job, and that many people are in the same boat as him.

I could get into my little car (40 mpg) and drive to Texas and back, approx 3,000 miles and stay in a few decent hotels.. For about as much as a plane ticket would cost, but then what does he do with all his "stuff".

So what do I do. Do I try to convince him to come home ? I really am not comfortable with giving him money for his rent, cause I am sure that he will be in the same situation next month. What do you think ?