[SS Shaun]

ok so in case some of you didn't know i was selling my 454 with the 4 speed manual trans to a member on here. (i hope he reads this to chime in as well) We agreed on the asking price and i was including everything! if it was with the motor and trans it went with it. i gave him my number we spoke a few times about it and then we came to a finally agreement. he was going to give me a $500 non-refundable deposit. and i told him many times non refundable. and he agreed. this was in October. He finally sent me a check in the mail on 11/11/11. Harassed me everyday about the check if i got it if i got it. i was away most of that week and didnt get back until that friday 11/11/11. so i sent him a text in december asking for the next payment. he asked me hey its the holidays can you give me a break this month please. I felt bad asking him for the money so i told him sure get the gifts for your kids. sent him a text in january hey are you sending anything this month. he told me yes wait until i get paid next week and i will send it to you. i said ok thanks. last week i sent him a text saying "hey if you sent me the check i didnt get it yet i just wanted to let you know" the he hit me with the story! "Man i have some problems now man my wife is loosing her job and i am going to have to sell the chevelle so i can buy your motor. I understand i had you wait this long and i can understand if you are mad, but i would like $300 back for the downpayment of the motor"

i sat back and my heart broke for the dude but then i was like how am i going to give him back $300 that i dont have for him. he made me promises of money and i went a head and bought some stuff. I needed $900 to pay off my transmission and i promised the guy i would have it paid before the end of Feb. I felt bad for the guys and i told him
"here is what i can do for you. i am going to relist the 454/4speed in a few weeks and when it sells i will give you back your deposit. I have no money left to send you because i have money tied to other things on my LQ9. I owe the trans shop $900 and i was counting on your $500 to pay it off. As soon as i pay off the trans shop i will sit back and calculate some things and get the 454 in running order so it can be easier to sell. I will advertise it in other ways and taking it to shows and events i will advertise it that way. As soon as someone buys it i will give you back your $500"

now my question to you is am i being fair? he sends me a text this morning saying "I been thinking about your text and i feel like your being a little unfair. i was trying to be fair with you and asking for only $300 back. I understand that you were counting on the money to help pay for your new setup but my wife lost her job and its not fair to my family for me to spend3500 on a motor, I didnt know this was going to happen, but like i said i am going to finish putting the car back together and sell it i need money for my family. I'm not buying another setup so i hoped you understand as i think you have a family too and would do the same if you had too but to temm me i have to wait till you finish your setup and then sell this setup is a little unfair. i would try and help you if this happened to you. thats why i only asked for $300 back"
i told him
"no matter" what you are going to have to wait i am not going to save up just to give you money back. so sit back and wait."

that is going to be the last time i text him back. i feel that i am being completely fair and being 100% nice about this. but to pressure me into sending you money back for a non refundable deposit is not fair. once the 454/4 speed is sold then i will send you money back. i am not spending any money on anything until i pay off my trans which i have to do since i already tied up my money for that. i've saved up for months on my own to buy things and was hoping to get the money from the 454 to buy everything i needed for the new setup. the motor is paid for the trans is almost paid for. the machine shop is paid for all out of my pocket. Lesson learned if i ever do something like this again i will get everything in writing and get it notarized. and to all the car guys and gals out there. if you are going to commit to something do it whole hearted and put everything to it and be ready to suffer the consequences when something goes wrong!
sorry but i had to rant and share my story! so chime in, am i being fair to this guy? i am being way to nice i think now that he is trying to put pressure on me about giving him his money back. all I can say is Thank God i didnt let him use paypal something told me not to let him send me a paypal payment now i know why!