Well this sucks!

[Hank70SS]

Thank you all. We're just making arrangements for cremation, well that's already done. Her ashes will be buried with my fathers remains. His grave marker is a bronze plaque provided by the VA, no room to add my mothers name. That's been his marker since 1959 so we feel it should remain. We'll add a second marker below it for my mom. Not doing the funeral home thing, those are unpleasant and pretty stressful for the family. We'll have a memorial service followed by a luncheon in a few weeks in Michigan.

Originally Posted by FlintTony

I send my condolenses to you and the family Hank. Like Bill said, she is in a better place.


That is most likely it then Hank on Chris. The paranoia came shortly after they removed the ventilator. Been downhill since. We took him some supper last night. Man, he looks bad.

I guess I should have called it delusional instead of paranoia but certainly delusion can cause paranoia in some people. Same thing happens with people with dementia. Short term memory is affected so they can't process what's going on around them. They may remember that someone was just with them but can't remember who it was or why they were there so they think the worst. The person was here to steal from me or hurt me.

Tough situation Tony, I feel for you. Tough to reason with or deal with a person in that state. I know, we dealt with it for a number of years with Lynda's father. I hope Chris doesn't have to suffer long in this state, hope his passing is soon and peaceful.