Well this sucks!

[Hank70SS]

Tony, Chris's paranoia is because he's not getting enough oxygen. Lynda's mom had emphysema and the same thing happened to her just before she passed. She just reminded me of that, she sends her love. Wish I had some advice for you but I don't. Just know we care.

[BillsCamino]

Hank...I'm sorry for your loss.
Losing a parent is a tough thing to go thru but your Mom is in a better place with no more suffering.

[FlintTony]

I send my condolenses to you and the family Hank. Like Bill said, she is in a better place.


That is most likely it then Hank on Chris. The paranoia came shortly after they removed the ventilator. Been downhill since. We took him some supper last night. Man, he looks bad.

[Ms Grumpy]

Hank I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I am so glad to hear at the end that she seemed at peace.

Tony you are doing the best you can. He knows you care and are there for him.

[Hank70SS]

Thank you all. We're just making arrangements for cremation, well that's already done. Her ashes will be buried with my fathers remains. His grave marker is a bronze plaque provided by the VA, no room to add my mothers name. That's been his marker since 1959 so we feel it should remain. We'll add a second marker below it for my mom. Not doing the funeral home thing, those are unpleasant and pretty stressful for the family. We'll have a memorial service followed by a luncheon in a few weeks in Michigan.

Originally Posted by FlintTony

I send my condolenses to you and the family Hank. Like Bill said, she is in a better place.


That is most likely it then Hank on Chris. The paranoia came shortly after they removed the ventilator. Been downhill since. We took him some supper last night. Man, he looks bad.

I guess I should have called it delusional instead of paranoia but certainly delusion can cause paranoia in some people. Same thing happens with people with dementia. Short term memory is affected so they can't process what's going on around them. They may remember that someone was just with them but can't remember who it was or why they were there so they think the worst. The person was here to steal from me or hurt me.

Tough situation Tony, I feel for you. Tough to reason with or deal with a person in that state. I know, we dealt with it for a number of years with Lynda's father. I hope Chris doesn't have to suffer long in this state, hope his passing is soon and peaceful.

[flash]

Hank ,I too am sorry to hear of your loss but as has been said she is in a better place and suffers no more . I know its not easy but it gets better knowing you dont have to worry whether she is being cared for properly .
Still in my prayers .

[Ms Grumpy]

Tony, just wanted you to know that we are thinking about you and your brother.

[FlintTony]

Thank you.

[Hank70SS]

Sorry I have haven't been around much, lot of details to handle. Seems like I've been on the phone for a week now. Mortuary service, cemetery, mom's medicare supplemental insurance, prescription drug insurance and relatives, lot's of relatives.

We also stuck around in FL to help my sister go through my mom's things. It's a lot easier as a group and Lynda was a huge help. I know my sister would have a hard time trying to go through mom's things on her own. She hasn't been a tremendous help, either on the phone with friends or sleeping.

Mom is in her room now, the mortuary delivered her ashes yesterday. We just painted her room for her while we were down there. I replaced all the outlets, switches and plates too. Just before she went in the hospital, hope she likes it.

Still more to do at the cemetery, pick out a plaque to go with my dad's. We'll have both mounted on a 4" granite slab. We're having a memorial service for her on May 4th and a luncheon afterward.

I'm stressed! I need another beer, later.

[shadowgray396]

Been there done that a few years back. We will keep in in our prayers. Take care of yourself. My condolences to you and your family in this time of loss.
Ray