Well this sucks!

[Ms Grumpy]

Hank, you can vent anytime, especially about this. I wish there was words that I could type here that could ease some of your pain. There just isn't. But I can say that your mom has lived her life, and like you said, she makes her own decisions..one of them is sitting in her chair all day. All you can do is be there for her, talk to her listen to her, and maybe she will listen to you one day and get up and move. I am fortunate to have my mother close to us. But I am also the one of her 6 kids that she has asked to make the hard decisions if she ever becomes incapacitated. My mom is like my best friend and I told her that I don't know if I would be able to when the time comes. I will keep you and your mom in my prayers.

Veronica is lucky to have your son in her life. You said that he still has school loans to pay for, but paying for her funeral may be something that he needs to do, for himself. You won't know for sure until the time comes, but such a sad story... Please let us know how you and your family are doing...