Hospital crap

FlintTony · #1 12-07-2013, 05:34 PM

The last few days have had me running to the hospital lots. My brother has been fighting stage 4 cancer for a year or so. We thought he would be done early spring. Surprised us all. I signed the end of life papers on Thursday. They have him on the morphine drip tonight. He is in the hospice room at the hospital.
The wifes mother, 86 years old, fell in the kitchen at her house last Thursday night. She laid there for 3 hours before Kathy found her. Broke her arm, busted her nose up pretty good, and has a nasty bump on her head, causing brain bleed. She is in intensive care, a few rooms from where my brother has been for 9 days. Ever notice how many really overweight people work in hospitals?

shadowgray396 · #2 12-07-2013, 05:59 PM

So sorry to hear about your brother and your wifes mother. Tough time of the year for family. I lost my mom when I was 8 just 10 days before Christmas, I remember it like it was yesterday. Our prayers will be with you and your family.

Hank70SS · #3 12-07-2013, 06:19 PM

Sorry to hear this Tony. It's tough but like Ray said just before the holidays make it harder. They moved my mother from the hospital to a real hospice. She wasn't there long but it was worth it. They know how to take care of people at that stage of their life. She looked so much better and at peace. It really was a blessing having her go there instead of the hospital. Just saying if it's possible a real hospice may be better for your brother and the rest of the family.

flash · #4 12-07-2013, 06:21 PM

Sorry to hear about your brother and mother in law ,prayers to you all ,never a good time for this type thing .

FlintTony · #5 12-08-2013, 04:08 AM

Thanks. MIL is out of intensive care now. They are going to send her to a rehab joint until she can move her arm. They say the brain-bleed will be OK. Lots of swelling, but is going down.

I just checked on my brother. Nurse said he is sleeping now. The morphine drip seems to make him a lot more comfortable. He doesn't want to go to any kind of assisted living, so I'm not sure what they are going to do. The doctor led us to believe he won't last much longer. He has less than 20% lung capacity, which makes it hard to breathe. This shit sure does drag on and on.

Hank70SS · #6 12-08-2013, 06:45 AM

That's a shame Tony. If all they're doing is trying to keep him comfortable and wait until passes he should be in a hospice. They can make him comfortable, probably more comfortable and it costs about 1/10 of the hospital costs.

RBeckman · #7 12-08-2013, 09:58 AM

Sorry to hear all this Tony and our thoughts are with you and Kathy right now.

As for Hospice I agree with Hank, when my dad was in his last days in 2008 we decided on home hospice and they were great and he was home where he wanted to be with family around.

FlintTony · #8 12-08-2013, 11:12 AM

I'm waiting to hear from someone at the hospital about what they plan to do. I asked about hospice the other day, but couldn't get a straight answer. Will see what happens later today.

RBeckman · #9 12-08-2013, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by FlintTony

I'm waiting to hear from someone at the hospital about what they plan to do. I asked about hospice the other day, but couldn't get a straight answer. Will see what happens later today.

What Hospital is he at Tony? My dad was at Gensys and they did all the work for hospice.

FlintTony · #10 12-08-2013, 02:48 PM

I just got a phone call. He is fadeing fast. They have him on th 9th floor at McLaren, which is the hospice floor. The nurse wanted to know if he is allergic to some (atavan?) pain medication. I'm like, damn, at this stage your'e worried about THAT?